Choosing a Career: When You and Your Parents Don't Agree
May 26, 2006
Are you pursuing a major or career field that your parents do not support? Do your parents want you to enter a career that will lead to financial success, but you know it won't make you happy? Parents usually want "the best" for their children, but how they perceive your future - and how you see your future - may be miles apart.
Communicating with your parents and understanding your choices are important as you make life-changing decisions. Here are some tips for talking to your parents about your plans.
Sometimes reassuring them that you have researched work opportunities, understand the requirements necessary to be competitive, and are making concrete plans to gain experience in your field helps your parents understand that you are taking responsibility for your future.
Steps to communicating with your parents
Understanding yourself and your choices
In addition to communicating with your parents, it is equally important to note your feelings when you consider your parents' reactions to your choices. By paying attention to those feelings in a caring way, new perspectives and new ways of communicating with your parents may unfold. A new perspective can change your entire outlook on the situation.
Meet with a career counselor to further explore how to handle the conflict between your parents' desires for your future and your own aspirations. You don't have to arrive at career and job decisions that feel right for you alone!
This article was written by Elizabeth Thompson, the Assistant Director for Vocation Symposia at Santa Clara University's Career Center. It originally appeared in NACEWeb.